The work of a Trainer is different from the work of an Educator.
Both are needed.
An Educator teaches you what to think about in classes.
A Trainer navigates you through transformational thoughtware-upgrade processes
that change what you think-with during trainings.
You may be serving as an Educator and would more appropriately serve as a Trainer.
Or vice versa...
Indeed, there are Trainers from each of the four Archetypal Lineages,
yet anyone successfully delivering transformational thoughtware-upgrade Trainings
will - consciously or unconsciously - apply a shared list of specific but unusual Trainer Skills.
This platform intends to research, distinguish, and document these skills,
and share them amongst the global Transformational Trainer community.
Everything on this website is open-code thoughtware.
NOTE: This website is a Bubble in the Bubble Map of the massively-multiplayer online-and-offline thoughtware-upgrade personal-transformation game called StartOver.xyz. It is a doorway to experiments that upgrade your thoughtware so you can create more possibility. Your knowledge is what you think about. Your thoughtware is what you use to think with. When you change your thoughtware, you go through a liquid state as your mind reorganizes itself. Liquid states can bring up transformational feelings and emotions. By upgrading your thoughtware you build matrix to hold more consciousness. No one can do this for you. No one can stop you from doing it. Our theory is that when we collectively build one million more Matrix Points we will change the morphogenetic field of the human race for the better. Please choose responsibly to read this website. Reading this whole website is worth 1 Matrix Point. Doing any of the experiments earns you additional Matrix Points. Please use Matrix Code TRSKILLS.00 to log your Matrix Points earned at this website on login.startover.xyz. Thank you for playing full out!
These are not simply recommendations or good ideas.
These are structural requirements.
If these things are not already active parts of your life, worldview, and way, you will be like a donkey without hay.
TRSKILLS.01: Carry Your Possibility Stone
at all time
Your Possibility Stone is your primary tool to shift into and hold the identity of 'Possibility Manager'.
Your Possibility Stone is a pain-in-the-ass reminder that at any moment, no matter what is happening you have the choice to use your Box-survivalist-defense mechanisms or your Bright Principles for connecting through offer making.
For a week, every time you are faced with a problem, physically hold your Possibility Stone between you and the problem. No matters whether the problem is a physical (you broken your friend screen phone), intellectual (you are having an argument), emotional (someone is having a low drama with you), energetic (someone keeps getting into your personal bubble of space), archetypal (you destroy every chance to travel to archetypal domains).
Physically hold your Possibility Stone between you and the problem, and let it be a portal to give you 10 different ways you could shift out of it being a problem situation.
TRSKILLS.02: Live With Your Beep! Book
Your Beep! Book is your self-made Map of the path you've walked, the traps you've fell into, the cliff you've jumped, the detour you've taken to be exactly where you are right now.
As Trainer, you are bridge builder. Your Beep! Book notes are the design of the bridge that you've built for yourself. A bridge that now could be used by a entire generation of edgeworkers to get to where you are. Never undermine the value of your notes!
Treat your Beep! Book the way Christopher Columbus look upon his outline of the 'New Worlds' (they were new worlds for him and his fellow europeans): as world changing (thought)-maps!
Five days a week for an entire month, write 3 pages about your exploration at the edge of the outer borders of your known territory. This can range from short stories, thoughtmaps, drawings, insights, distinctions and its unfoldings, a process, to questions and its possible answers, ...
TRSKILLS.03: Become An Experimenter
How can you ask your clients to go to the edge of their Box if you are not willing to do the same? Your clients are inspired by what you do, not what you say.
Adventuring yourself to the edge of your Box - for real, not in your mind - materialize as experiments. You cannot know what could happen at the edge of your Box, otherwise it wouldn't be an edge. The only way to discover how it could go is by experimenting.
A big hint that you are Trainer, experimenting is one of the ecstasy of your life. If it is not yet, you can train yourself in experimental ecstasy. I promise its Fun!
Experiment TRSKILLS.03: Invent Your Own Experiments
Experimenting for a Trainer is like using your Gremlin detector. It goes without questioning. The questioning comes from your Gremlin.
Every day for the rest of your life, invent and do one experiment per day until it becomes a second nature.
Experiment can vary in size, time, space, attention and resources. Experiments can go from eating your morning porridge with a fork, to knocking on your neighbors doors and collect one non-physical thing (like a belief, a story, a conclusions, etc...), to learn a poem by heart, to create a whole new gameworld, to drawing the flag of your nanonations, to appreciating the quality of your boss to them, to vacuuming your place in less than 5 min, to light a candle in your reading space, etc... There is a plethora of possible experiments at every time of the day. Commit to doing one a day.
TRSKILLS.04: Thoroughly Do Weekly S.P.A.R.K. Experiments
Thoroughly doing SPARK Experiments weekly is applying discipline to a commitment. How well are applying discipline to your commitments?
TRSKILLS.06: Enter A 3Cell For Making Evolutionary Pirate Agreements
The purpose of your 3Cell is to encourage Authentic Evolution. As a Trainer, you cannot do it all by yourself. The lone-wolf strategy has maybe work until now but if you are reading this website, you you have found its limit.
As a Trainer, probably more than you think, you need encouragement, you need a team that has your back, you need a team that will give your honest, clear, evolutionary feedback emerging from their commitment to your own evolution and not for their Gremlin.
Experiment TRSKILLS.06: Create a 3Cell of Trainers - be them Possibility Management Trainer or from a different context (preferably a context where initiation and transformation is at the center). Make a WhatsApp (or Telegram, Signal, Facebook) group.
Commit to them.
Connect to them.
Be clear with them.
This might announce the start of your new gameworld!
TRSKILLS.07: Take Back Your Attention
Your attention is your most valuable resource. Without having your attention back, you cannot have access to your other resources.
As a Trainer, you need to have taken back your attention from the dazzling storyworlds that modern culture is trying to sell you at the fastest rate possible.
The storyworlds of being cool, skinny, young, rich, and beautiful.
The storyworlds of resentment, low drama, being right, or making wrong.
The storyworlds of 'I need money to live', ' I have to do something to have value for others', 'I can do it by myself'.
1) For the first part of the experiment, get your Beep! Book and write a (long) list of the common things that unconsciously hijacked your attention. Find example of what capture your attention here: http://yourattention.mystrikingly.com/#common-things. Write in details, what, how often, how long, ...
2) Circle 5 of those attention eating things that you would like to take your attention back from.
3) For the next 5 weeks, take back your attention from those 5 things, one per week. During the first week, choose one of the 5 thing. Notice and catch yourself when you are giving your attention to it. When you catch yourself, pause. Really pause. Make a different decision. Put your attention on something else. For example, what you are trying to numb by letting your attention be hijacked.
Notice What You Notice
Notice What You Notice With
Notice What You Avoid Noticing
Notice Who In You Is Doing The Noticing And Why
Experiment TRSKILLS.09: pay attention to your attention.
For 10 min, everyday for week, practice putting your attention on your attention (your awareness on what you are aware of). During those 20 minutes, pay attention where your attention wonders.
Notice and write down - in details and concision - the sentences, the images, the needs, the stories, the voices where you attention wonders to without judgement about them. If criticisms do come up write them down without judgement about your judgement!
Notice and write down next to each sentence which part of you is putting its attention on that particular story (Box, Being, Gremlin, Child/Parent/Demon Ego State, one of your 5 bodies, Bright Principles, Archetypal Lineages, your mother/father, etc...).
Notice and write down what is the purpose that drives this part of you to drive your attention to that particular story.
Notice how your attention wavers from one thought to the next.
Notice what the survival patterns of your attention. Do not judged it, simply notice it.
Your clients have the similar survival strategy as you. If you can't notice them in yourself, you won't be able to notice them in them either.
Live In Neutral Self Observation
Experiment TRSKILLS.10: Remind yourself to Observe Yourself
Get yourself a reminder - a bracelet, an alarm, a pin, a notification on your computer, a post-it - that says 'Self-Observation'. Every time, you see it/hear it, position your observe outside of yourself. It feels like someone is looking over your shoulder. BEWARE: this observer is absolutely neutral. If you are judging yourself, you are not observing yourself.
See how long you can keep doing what you were doing and observe yourself at the same time.
Self-observation is a muscle like your attention or keeping your center. Muscle only get stronger if you train them. This experiment is about training you neutral self-observation muscle.
Find Out Which Box Design You Use
You have parts. Your parts want different things, sometimes those things contradict each other, enough to often drive you crazy.
That's why it is quite useful to distinguish between your different parts and get a grip on what they like and don't like and what are they like - what is their design. One of those part is your Box. Your Box is different from your Gremlin. Your Gremlin is the active part of you that will protect the Box at any cost. The Gremlin is active, the Box is passive. The Box is dead machine covered with reactionary buttons that when pushed reflexively behaves. Your Gremlin at that moment would then in addition attack the person who pushed the button.
Experiment TRSKILLS.11: Make a list of 50 characteristics of your Box.
1) Go to the 18 Boxes bubble and find out which of the 18 Boxes your Box is designed on. Your Box can be a clear design on one Box or can have been inspired by different ones.
2) Make a list of 50 characteristics of your Box design right now (your Box has probably already changed while doing evolutionary work). Your Box characteristics are not bad or good. Being aware of them gives your choice about them.
The ideas you think with are called memes.
Memes are like genes.
In the same way that genes are the smallest instructions for the design of your physical body...
memes are the smallest instructions for the design of your intellectual body... your mind.
Your memes are what you think with. When you think about what you think with you get a chance to start over.
Memetics is the study, detection, creation, transformation and use of memes.
Read all the scripts from memetics engineering sessions in the Memetics Bubble. Then ask another fellow trainer to have a session with you where you both will look at each other's memes using the principles of Memetics Engineering.
The point here is not to change the memes that you are using. The point of this experiment is to develop the skill to look closer and closer at the meme at work in your Box and in their Box.
You might, at some point, almost feel the memes engage and trigger a whole bunch of other memes. Quite thrilling!
Bypass Your Mind Machines
When we - the General Memetics Team - write up the process of bypassing Your Mind Machines, just do it. Find another fellow trainer who is willing to hold space for you while you go through this process. Or even better that is willing to also go through the process and do it on each other. Simple. Clear. Efficient. Your life will be different after that!
Disidentify From Your Survival Strategy (Box)
After you distinguish between your Box and your Being, the next step is to free your identity from your survival strategy - your Box.
Up to 18 years old, out of survival imperative, we identity ourselves with our Box. If we didn't do that, we would be too dangerous for our environment - and maybe for ourselves - that we would die. At 18 years, you should have had this choice. Most of us have not.
It doesn't matter, you get the choice now. The choice to have your identity be independent from your survival strategy. Great, how? By making a gap between 'you' and your survival strategy.
Experiment TRSKILLS.16: Make a gap between 'you' and your survival strategy
The gap can be as thin as sheet of paper, just enough for your two parts to be independent from each other. After making your list of 50 Box survival characteristics, every time you notice one of the behaviors coming up. Pause. Don't try to make it go away. This is probably another one of your Box strategy : to not look at your Box strategy.
Find Out Which Dominant Brain You Have
All of us has four brains. However, for most of us, they are not balanced. You have one brain that is dominant. Your dominant brain determines what it important, how to connect, how to relate, what are the different steps for a project, what is at the center of the projects, what are the values, ... It's a filter through which to look at the world.
It could be that you are at war with one or your teammate because you don't know which dominant brain you have and which dominant they have. It is so simply revolutionary to carry this distinction. It save my life more than once!
To discover which dominant brain you are, pick one object next to you, any object and look at it. Pay attention to what are your first impulses (not more than 3 impulses!) towards it. What comes to you first in relation to that object?
I just did the experiment with someone. I threw him a pen and asked him: 'What are you first impulses towards the pen?'
He say: 'Teal'. I said: 'What?'. He: 'The color teal.' Me: 'Ah. Thank you.'
He say: 'I now want to put it back in the plastic bag where it belongs.'
I say: 'Thank you.' and ask him: 'What brains do you think you have?'
He say: 'Blue and yellow.'
I say: 'Yes. You telling me the color of the pen is your Blue Brain at work, and then wanting to put it back when it belongs, is your Yellow Brain at work.'
Exit The World Of Right/Wrong and Good/Bad
The dichotomy Right/Wrong, Good/Bad installed in us from a too young age feeds from the Shadow World. If I'm right, then you are wrong. If this is good, then one day I could do something bad. On and on... It's terrifyingly so embedded in our language that most of us use it without even noticing it.
Experiment TRSKILLS.18: Delete 'Right', 'Wrong', 'Good', 'Bad' from your vocabulary.
It takes unbroken attention to your speech to not pronounce those words. When you catch yourself saying it, you are sleeping. Stay awake. Keep your attention for as long as it takes. You will start to feel the pain of hearing that word in your and other's mouths.
Extra: you can do this also with words such as 'like', 'so', 'hum' or using 'you' instead of 'I'.
Consciously Use Your 3 Powers
Experiment TRSKILLS.20: Consciously Use Your Power of Asking by asking the next question.
Asking the next question in the space can take it either deeper, up or sideways into another space. Questions can be the steering wheel of the space deciding where are we going next.
Practice those three types of questions. You don't ever have to be a victim of the quality of the space anymore.
Also practice noticing the next question the space needs - even you are not the one who says it. Notice where the space goes with every question.
Experiment TRSKILLS.21: Consciously Use Your Power of Choosing
The power of choosing for a Trainer is imminent. When faced with a client, there's often so many doors to open, so many golden keys. How to choose? Which one to choose? If you can't choose, you cannot support your client. They are paying you because they can't choose themselves.
By choosing one option, you have to grieve the lost of the opportunity to choose the other options. It is huge. You are in luck that you've learn how to feel and how to feel sad.
First, practice choosing with more anger than usual. This or that. Pasta or salad? Movie or book? Which movie? A phone or video call? Dress or pants? Walk or bike ride? This time or that time? You are face with choice all day long. Every time you are faced with a choice, raise your anger to 18% and make the choice and commit to it. For a while at least.
Experiment TRSKILLS.22: Consciously Use Your Power of Declaring
Practice consciously using your power of declaration by declaring to your circle what you are. 'I am a memetic engineer.' 'I am a mid-wife of edgeworkers.' 'I am a witch.' 'I am psychic.' 'I am a gameworld alchemist.'
Then you have to prove it.
Use your power of declaration to put yourself in a place where your Bright Principles, your Archetypal Lineage, and your Being have necessity to come through no matter what. No matter how your Box and Gremlin are trying to sabotage you.
Take a risk! What could happen? Maybe that it works...
Become Radically Responsibility for Time
Experiment TRSKILLS.23: Carry a watch. Buy a watch and wear it. How can you be responsible for time if you don't know what time it is? Your phone is not your watch, it contains too many distraction and brings in the gameworld of technology into your space. Asking someone else for time is giving your responsibility away. Buy a damn watch!
Experiment TRSKILLS.24: Be a Time Maker.
Experiment TRSKILLS.25: Moving Faster Than the Speed of Time or 'Whizzbang'.
Next time you clean your bathroom, get an timer set for 8 min. Press start and GO! The only way you can do this is to turn your mind off and to just move faster than the speed of thinking. Do the next task, and the next task all under 8 min. It's ecstatic I promise!
If you want to spend more than 8 min cleaning your bathroom, and have no time to make your website, experiment, read your book, etc... then something else is really going on.
Live On The New Map Of Feelings & Phase 2 of Feelings Work
As a Trainer it is so crucial that you live on the New Map of Feelings and that you are USING your feelings for your everyday life, not simply talking about them. Talking about your feelings is Phase 1 of feelings work.
When you move to Phase 2 of feelings work, you don't lose Phase 1. Meaning something it is useful and necessary to talk about your feelings while you are feeling them. Sometimes...
Exit Verbal Reality and Enter Experiential Reality
Lower Your Numbness Bar
Recognize The Five Phases Of Change
Take Back Your Voice
Do The 3-3-3 Exercise: Rage Work
3 Minutes 3 Times Per Week For 3 Months
Establish Your Ability To Say, "STOP!" and "NO!"
Take Back Your Authority
Build Your Ability To Commit
Make And Keep Commitments
Activate Your Dragon - Give Her A Voice
Own Your Gremlin
Feed Your Gremlin Something Besides Low Drama
Open Your Pearl
Distill Your Bright Principles
Do At Least 10 Possibility Labs With Different Trainers
Stellate Your Four Feelings Archetypes
Your 4 feelings are your rocket fuel and one of the most extraordinary resources for fulfilling your destiny. They are one of the foundational resources for your other resources.
Heal Your Reactivity: Buttons, Hooks, Triggers, Traumas, Voices, and Imbalances
Become A Trigger Hunter
Take Your Balls Back From Your Mother (or) Your Center Back From Your Father
Heal Your Brain Splits
Quit School... Finally Get Out
Make Your Story-Making A Conscious Choice
Become Radically Responsible For Being You
Escape Your 6 Prisons
Find The Category Of Your Archetypal Lineage
Send A Signal That You Are Preparing Yourself To Jack-In To Your Archetypal Lineage By Wearing Your Archetypal Lineage Talisman
Navigate Your Own Possibility Team
One, creating, maintaining, and replacing yourself as the main spaceholder in your own Possibility Team builds huge amount of matrix. Matrix to hold space, matrix to take feedback, matrix to invent, matrix to be responsible, matrix to go non linear, matrix to connect and keep connection, matrix to be the person who would navigate a Possibility for a year, two years, ....
Second, this is how you start building your real circle, the circle of people that your qualities of Being, your Bright Principles and your Archetypal Lineage are feeding. Building your circle happens one person at a time, one legend at a time, one Team/ Work-Talk / Workshop at a time. Those are the people who will come to your Expand The Box.
Commit. Simply commit to start a Possibility Team in your living room - Online or Physical. If your commitment is authentic, it will start. Commit to be there each week, same time, same place - Thursday night 19.30 at this address or at this Zoom link.
Escape The Patriarchy
Shift Your Point Of Origin Into Archearchy
Practice Taking A Resilient Stand
Stand In Adulthood As Your Home
Give Worktalks Regularly
Deliver Workshops Regularly
Commit To Radical Responsibility
Start Exploring All Three Worlds
First Position: Centered, Grounded, Bubbled
Energetic Sword of Clarity
Scanning 5 Bodies
Unmix Your Emotions
Decontaminate Your Adult Ego State
Owning Your Gremlin Phase 1
Shift Your Identity
7 Core Skills
Owning Your Gremlin - Phase 2
Fair / Unfair Conversations
Being The Janitor
Radically responsible reality - the One Law - is that whatever is not handled in the Training Space to create the sanctuary aerodrome of the Training Space is your job. When you are serving the Space, then by handling the jobs you notice that need doing, you are doing what the Space needs. Every mess is your mess. You are the Janitor of the Space.
Being A Trainer
Heal Your Technopenuriaphobia
Use The Trainer Alphabet
Aliveness Through Ongoing Improvisation
Space Creation and Navigation Skills
You have so many options to choose from:
Your choice often depends on what dynamics and forces are already alive in a physical space or in individuals in the people you detect from your 5-Body Scanning.
Call In Bright Principles
Conscious Use of Your Gremlin
Greeting the Presiding Deity of the Space
Make And Use Side Doors
Put your shoulder against the wall.
Make sure you are in contact with everyone in the Space.
Put your Grounding Cord and Point Of Origin into the new Space.
Finding Making and Using Doorways
Pulling The Rug Out
Transformational Process Skills
2 Feedbacks: Rapid Learning and Vacuum
Poop On The Table (Memetic Engineering)
Coaching for Presence in Reality.
Journey Into The Earth
Resistance Decision Making
Become Skilled in Do-Overs
Become Skilled in Do-Overs
5 LISTENINGS 1. Normal Neurotic, 2. Adult / Active, 3. Possibility Listening, 4. Discovery Listening, 5. Listening to the Universe
7 SPEAKINGS 1. Normal Neurotic, 2. Discussion (either Neurotic or Adult), 3. Adult Listening, 4. Possibility Listening, 5. Discovery Speaking, 6. Dragon Speaking, 7. Speaking from the Void.
Relationship as a Space of Possibility
Relationship as a Gremlin Free Space
Archetypal Feminine and Masculine
Entering Archetypal Ego State Through the Adult Ego State
Gain Intimacy Journeyer Skills
Activate Your Inner Resources For Connection
Become Aware Of The 5 Controls
Source Archetypal Love
Make Completion Loops Rather Than Roadblocks
Source Archetypal Love
Navigate Three Domains Of Love
Legend Making Skills
Through Your Clients
It is not so much about event and actions in the world. It is about who your Clients become through your work that others experience them differently in a positive and attractive way.
Legend Making Results